Tomorrow is Fathers' Day. Tomorrow is my birthday.
My birthday and Fathers' Day are always tied in my mind, since they're usually either the same day or very close to each other...most times on the same weekend.
Depending on where I was living, my birthday and Fathers' Day was also shared with my brother-in-law (his was a day after mine) or the husband of one of my cousins who shares the same day with me. One year, we had a huge celebration for all three birthdays and Fathers' Day combined.
Since I moved to Hawai'i, I haven't had a combination birthday party with other family members, (except my 60th, which was celebrated at my sister's in Miami) but I still have Fathers' Day to share it with.
My father died in an accident when I was 13 years old and I miss him to this day. He lives forever young in my heart.
Five years later I gained a stepfather. I could not have picked a better one. He and my mother were together for 54 years.
None of them are still here with us and I find myself the oldest member of my family.
I am not a daughter any longer, but I am a mom, a grandmother, a sister, an aunt, a great-aunt and amazingly enough...a great-great-aunt!
I wanted to write and share about how Cubans celebrated birthdays when I was growing up, but...thoughts of past shared celebrations kept intruding. Ghosts of birthdays past...
So, I will just share this photo for now. My 21st birthday - the only photo I have left of any of my birthdays celebrated in Cuba ..sorry it's so small!
Sometime soon, I will share about how Cubans celebrate birthdays...just not today.
Happy Fathers' Day to all the dads in my family and to any of my friends who are dads!